4 người không đi tạ mộ cuối năm, gia đạo mới êm ấm thịnh vượng: Là ai?

Folklore suggests: "Visiting the wrong grave at the wrong time, before you can receive blessings, brings about misfortune." So, which four people should avoid visiting ancestral graves at the end of the year for family harmony and prosperity?

At the end of the year, as work gradually settles, many Vietnamese families have the custom of visiting ancestral graves to express filial piety and invite their ancestors to celebrate Tet (Lunar New Year) with their descendants. This is a long-standing spiritual tradition, reflecting the principle of "drinking water, remembering the source."

However, according to folk beliefs, not everyone should directly visit ancestral graves at the end of the year. For some, if they insist on going, not only will they not receive blessings, but it could also negatively impact their health, spirit, and fortune, as well as that of their family.

Who are the four people who should avoid visiting ancestral graves at the end of the year for family harmony and prosperity?

People who are sick or weak – Avoid depleting positive energy

According to spiritual beliefs, cemeteries are places with heavy negative energy, especially at the end of the year when the weather is cold and damp, and the positive energy in the human body is already depleted.

People who are:

- Recovering from illness

- Experiencing prolonged weakness and fatigue

- Elderly people with weak immune systems

If they try to visit the graves, they are easily susceptible to colds, chills, and worsening fatigue, even long-term health consequences.

Our ancestors believed that having healthy children and grandchildren is already a way of showing filial piety, and it's not necessary to go to the graves in person when the body lacks sufficient positive energy. In this case, the family can ask a healthy person to represent them or perform a memorial service at home.

Pregnant women – Ensuring peace for both mother and child

Pregnant women are considered to have sensitive energy fields, easily affected by the surrounding environment. Traveling frequently, standing for long periods in the cold, and the spiritual element of cemeteries can easily lead to:

- Fatigue, low blood pressure

- Mental anxiety

- Negative effects on the fetus

Folk beliefs hold that the fetus is a gift from Heaven and needs absolute protection. Therefore, pregnant women are often advised to stay home and sincerely pray to their ancestors at the family altar; their devotion remains intact without violating any taboos.

Those in mourning or with unstable mental states – Avoid "negative energy upon negative energy"

People who have just experienced a bereavement, a mental shock, or are experiencing much worry and sadness are believed to have weak energy fields and are easily affected by negative energy.

Continuing to visit graves at the end of the year, places already imbued with negative energy, can easily lead to:

- Prolonged depression

- Restless sleep and nightmares

- Family unrest and work problems

The ancients believed that if the mind is not at peace, the rituals cannot be complete. Visiting graves in an unstable state not only fails to bring blessings but also easily invites worry.

In this case, it is advisable to wait for a more appropriate time or ask another family member to handle the grave visitation.

Children under 6 years old – Avoid the influence of weak spirits

According to folklore, young children, especially those under 6 years old, have immature spirits and are easily affected by cold weather and environments with heavy negative energy. Taking children to visit graves at the end of the year can cause them to:

- Cry and have difficulty sleeping

- Be prone to minor illnesses after returning home

- Feel restless

Many families share that after taking their children to the graves, the children are often startled and have restless sleep. Therefore, our ancestors often advised children not to accompany adults to the cemetery, especially at the end of the year when the weather is gloomy.

So, who is suitable to visit the graves at the end of the year?

According to folk beliefs, the person visiting the graves should be:

- A healthy person with a strong spirit

- Usually a male head of the household or a mature descendant

- A person with a sincere heart and understanding of the rituals

Most importantly, it's not about having many people or everyone present, but about sincerity and thoughtfulness in the ceremony.

Whether to go or not, the core principle remains "Heart"

Our ancestors always emphasized:

"Ancestors are judged by their hearts, not by their outward appearance."

Even if you don't directly visit the graves, as long as you:

- Maintain harmony in the family

- Live a filial and righteous life, and conduct your business honestly

- Remember the death anniversaries and offer incense regularly

then blessings will last, and the family will prosper.

The information in this article is for reference only, based on folk beliefs.